Help us to get these messages out there, so that the people who need the information can find this and begin taking the steps that will connect them to getting help and support to GET TO SAFETY.
Domestic Violence can, and does, affect anyone.
DV knows no barriers. It affects people of all ages, all religions, all genders, all ethnic and racial backgrounds. It affects anyone across the socio-economic spectrum, from the poorest to the richest.
Did you know? You can get Protection Orders for your pets.
In my previous blog, we mentioned the fact that 71% of perpetrators of domestic violence use threat of harm, actual harm and in some cases actually kill the family pets as a means of controlling their human victims.
Hi again, it's me, Milly the Mooch, aka @moochalada, aka the 'Littlest dog who could', donning my wonder-cape for...
Pet to the Rescuuuuue!
With thanks to Mighty Mouse. No cartoons were harmed in the making of this image.
All levity aside, this is a most serious subject. It's pretty hard for a little dog like me, who lives in a peaceful and safe environment with someone who takes care of my every need, to have to speak about the terrible things that happen to pets in domestic violence.
But I definitely need to speak about it! Everywhere we've been on this campaign, people are constantly surprised to learn about this very significant component of domestic violence. So I'm standing up tall, on all four of my 6" legs, to ask you to learn about this, and be ready to help those in need; to find the solutions to getting their animals to safety, so they too can get out of a violent situation.
I am not talking about this to be sensational. As appalling as this unbelievably high number of 71% is, (an agreed statistic across most of the major platforms Against Domestic Violence - though some say up to 76%) this kind of manipulation tactic is a very common way for violators to ensure the silence and collusion of their victims, to keep the abuse a secret.
Most heart-wrenching of all, this is often the way that an adult perpetrator may hold control over the children, who witness/experience violence, to keep them silent. "If you say ANYTHING, I will kill your pet"
Temporary Restraining Orders (TRO)
Thankfully, since 2005 there have been legislative changes all over America that make it possible to have pets added to the TRO.
TROs can provide temporary care of children or possession of property, and they can, in most states, also include pets within the protection order.
In November 2014, the Animal Welfare Institute (AWI) began publishing state manuals designed to enable lawyers and advocates to further assist domestic violence survivors by getting their companion animals included on protection orders. If you know anyone who is in a violent situation where they fear for their pet’s safety, please help them to connect to this resource.
Join me, Milly the Mooch, the ‘Littlest dog who could’ and join forces with the Seattle Mariners to raise money and awareness for the Refuse to Abuse 5K
Let’s work together to change the dynamics of Abuse - which begins with education. Support your state’s Coalition Against Domestic Violence and together we can fund the programs that educate children and teens to Choose Respect - Everyone deserves a healthy relationship.
You can raise awareness and help get pets & their people to safety. Share. Share these blogs, and together we can get these messages out into the social media sphere, and together we can reach those 56% of people in violent situations who choose to remain because they cannot leave their pets behind.
Together we can help people connect to the services that can get them, and their pets, to safety.
If you had to leave - Could you leave your pets behind?
For many pet owners the answer to this question would be an unequivocal NO. Thank goodness I have total certainty that my person would never ever leave me.
Hi, if we haven’t already met, I’m Milly Brown, aka @moochalada, aka Milly the Mooch. I am known as the ‘Littlest dog who could’ and I’m travelling across America raising money for charity everywhere I go. www.moochalada.com
We are in Seattle at the moment, and our current charity is the Mariner’s Refuse to Abuse 5K event - raising money for WSCADV - the Washington State Coalition Against Domestic Violence.
But why, well you may ask, would a terrier choose this charity? Well… let me give you something of the big picture, from NCADV, the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence:
Up to 56% of people in a domestic violence situation choose to remain because they do not want to leave their pets.
Please don’t go all statistics weary on me here - I’m asking you to really read this and let the numbers sink in.
Someone you know, in your workplace, at your gym, in your social circles, the person next to you at the game, your child's teacher, the person at the checkout running your groceries… someone you know is one of these people.
On average, 24 people per minute are victims of rape, physical violence or stalking by an intimate partner in the United States — more than 12 million women and men over the course of a year.
More than 1 in 3 women (35.6%) and more than 1 in 4 men (28.5%) in the U.S. report having experienced rape, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner in their lifetime.(source)
A survey of American employees found that 44% of full-time employed adults personally experienced domestic violence’s effect in their workplaces, and 21% identified themselves as victims of intimate partner violence.
Now here’s where it really catches my attention, and gets me donning my WonderDog outfit to transform into (cue wonder-music) (booming voice) (long drawn out ‘UUUUU’ at the end…)
“Pet to the Rescue!”
It doesn’t take much to do the math - and I’m a dog! - to see that the incidence of people remaining in violence for the sake of their pets is very high indeed...
68% of US households, about 85 million families, own a pet (2017-18 National Pet Owners Survey)
Studies show that up to 48 - 56% of people in domestic violence WILL CHOOSE TO REMAIN in an abusive/violent situation because they do not want to leave their pets.
71% of perpetrators use threat of harm, actual harm or kill the pets as a way of controlling their DV victims.
Please join me on my mission to raise awareness about this, to help support DV charities all across America and beyond: Help us to invest in the education that will help to break the cycle of violence that perpetuates these horrid statistics, and help us to increase awareness about the need to improve access to facilities for pets fleeing from violence.
If we can get these pets to safety, that's an enormous amount of people who can also get out and get safe AND be reunited with their beloved pets.
Stay tuned, I’ll be writing much about this important subject over the next few weeks. Please Share - the more people who see this, the more we can empower genuine change.
To find out how you can make a difference in your state please google Your State Name + Coalition Against Domestic Violence. In each state Coalition Against Domestic Violence you will find a complete list of services and resources within your state.